Friday, February 19, 2010


Sometimes best laid plans and dreams for your kids comes together and sometimes with good intentions, they do not. You cannot make decisions based on your adult kids mishaps. What happens when your day rises and falls on those sons and daughters successes or failures? Is something off balance here?

Life happens and not in the way that we always envision. And that is ok. As author Margo Balsis shares, “I’m learning to give up my demands for answers and formulas that promise ‘success’ in every way and am praying II Chronicles 20:12. ‘Lord, we do not know what to do, but our eyes are on you.’

Because my children are grown out of my house and on their own, I have to realize a new layer of letting go. The layers are like peeling an onion; there is always one more. They have come this far by faith. I have too. This prayer from Ken Gire has been instrumental in creating my peaceful place within.

“My children are not the work of my hands. My hands are not the hands that hold them, not the hands that mold them, not the hands that work all things together in their lives for good. They are the work of God’s hands. I am merely a tool in those hands; a tool He has used in some way for a short time to shape them. So God give me the strength to open my hands, not knowing what all You want me to give, knowing only that it is to Your hands that I give it. Help me to love Your hands more than whatever it is that I hold in mine.”


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Ann said...

I LOVE the empty nest!

Steve said...

I think so many of us at this age see their children as either an extension of their own personality or as a cherished possession, like a favourite guitar, or a canoe that has been through rough water with you. This is wrong on so many levels. As you point in your writing, we are but stewards of our children, and that for an incredibly brief time. It is far more fitting that we pray and praise, than that we scold and confine. Our hearts have been bound to our children by chords that we scarcely know how to live with, yet these chords do not give us leave to bind our children to us. Rather it has been and remains our position to serve their needs, even if that means staying our of their lives completely.